Hello everyone, Do you know that more than 70 percent of new relationships fail in the very first year? Today we are going to share with you the top 5 reasons why most relationships fail. So before starting off with my just I want you to know why I chose to write about this certain topic. The first time I realized how important and serious this is was last month as I was waiting to board a flight back to Pakistan at the Heathrow airport after spending an amazing summer with my cousins who live in London.
Not just this vacation but in fact all the times I had traveled abroad and explored different parts of the world it taught me many different things each time . What I loved the most was differentiating all kinds of people, nationalities, religions and traditions and then comparing them with each other and even with myself to see what differences and similarities we all had with one another.
So coming to the part when I was waiting to board my flight back to Pakistan. While there was still time left I kept thinking to myself how every single one of us is different from each other and have our own different stories and experiences to share. While I was lost in my thoughts something that I had never given a second thought popped up in my head and left me in surprise. I’ve almost traveled more than half the world and have met thousands of people with different personalities, identities and what not but I had never thought about this one thing that all of them and everyone I knew had in common and I’m sure most of you guys and everyone you know also has gone through it at some point in life. Yes I’m talking about getting our hearts broken that is something almost everyone over the age of hitting puberty has witnessed. In almost all the stories I’ve heard from people there’s a bad and a good partner in them even worse in some cases both the partners are confident that they were not the reason of the break up. I think either they are pretending to cover up their fuck ups or maybe they just really don’t know what they did was unacceptable and caused them to part ways. Do you know that 70 percent of all relationships end in the first year of dating and that’s the saddest thing I’ve found out lately. This is the reason I wanted to write about this topic so I could raise awareness of this issue even if that means in just a few people I would still be glad to do so . Now that you know why I chose to write about this let’s start with mentioning the top five most common reasons that cause most relationships to fail.
The first reason on my list is also a very common reason behind a majority of relationships not being able to work out. Both men and women have this problem of understanding the needs of one another . Firstly they need to accept that no matter what they do there are always going to be gender differences and to have a healthy relationship they will have to understand the needs of their partner. Some of the most common things that both the genders fail to understand are
- Men need sex to feel loved and women need to feel loved to have sex
- Men need to play well to feel good in sports and women need to feel good to play well
- Men need to feel respected and appreciated with words or gestures. Women need your actions to be backed up with word
2– Love is blind
Some scientists at the University College London have shown us that love indeed is blind. They found out that feelings of love lead to a suppression of activity in the areas of the brain controlling critical thought . In other words once we feel close to a person, our brain decides that it’s not necessary to assess their character or personality too deeply and that is why most couples are all lovey dovey at the start of the relationship. The problem here is that this phase doesn’t last forever and after a couple of months or a year max the new relationship euphoria begins to wear off and the reality starts setting in and both the partners start seeing each other as they really are . Now if both of them had been honest with each other from the start or have not made a false first impression of themselves then they don’t have to worry about anything but that’s not the case most of the time and this becomes a major reason why many relationships fail.
- Another very common reason why most relationships fail is the lack or loss of trust. It is one of the most harmful contagions to a couple’s long-term success and without trust, a relationship misses two of the key factors to a strong bond , safety and security. Trust issues could arise due to a number of reasons that may include jealousy, possessiveness, unreasonable rigidity, emotional infidelity, physical/sexual infidelity, relational game playing or lack of reliability. Most of the time the reason behind trust issues is not even true and something we have assumed ourself. I believe that’s someone who is having trust issues should honestly consider whether the lack of trust is based on tangible substance or unjustified fears.
4- Lack of communication
Lack of communication in couples is considered to be one of the top reasons behind breakups and even divorce. The situation gets worse when one or both partners show contempt in the relationship Contempt is the opposite of respect and is often expressed via negative judgment, criticism, or sarcasm regarding the worth of an individual. The best solution to that is to talk to your partner and clear any mis understanding there is between you guys because not communicating with each other could make the situation worse and even lead to an end of the relationship.
5- Immaturity and lack of commitment
The last but definitely not the least reason why most relationships fail is because either one or even both the partners are still immature. The best example of this are teenage relationships. Almost all teenage relationships fail because most of the high school going kids are in it for the fun specially the boys. They are the kind of people who are in it just for the relationship and not the person they are with in that relationship. These kind of relationship are bad for the person who actually is in love and really does care about their partner but little do they know that there is no future for them with that immature and selfish person.