5 signs that your guy is just playing around with you

Hello everyone , Today I’m writing this one for all the girls out there. I’m a guy which is why I know how most guys are. I’m not saying there are no good guys left in this world because that is a lie. There also no denying the fact that nowadays girls are much more loyal and sincere than guys. Well don’t worry because I know exactly how play boys act around the girl they are playing around with. I’m sharing this with you because I believe that every woman should be treated with the respect she deserves. So today I bring you the top five signs that your guy is not serious about you and if I help and save even one girl from getting hurt badly in the future I will believe that I accomplished my goal.

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Top 5 signs that your guy is not serious about you
1. If he hates the idea of taking it slow

The first and a very obvious sign that he’s a play boy is that he wouldn’t like the idea of taking things slow and by things I mean the relationship . A guy who genuinely loves you would not care about such petty things and would worry about the bigger picture. In other words even if you tell him you don’t want to kiss him until marriage trust me he would be happy to respect whatever your opinion is. Someone who gets mad at you for not letting him kiss you or sleep with you is a guaranteed asshole. Now you know what to do when you see this red flag or sign in the future.

2. If he doesn’t want to introduce you to his family and friends

This is another serious red flag and sign you want to look for in your guy in order to get an idea of him. Guys who are not planning to have a future with you would obviously not want you to meet his parents and even his close friends . You might be wondering why is that well it’s because most of their parents are not aware of the evil a**holes they are. They won’t want to ruin their fake image introducing someone they don’t even plan to marry I hope you got my point.

3. If he is always on the phone even when he’s supposed to give time to you

A guy who likes to play with your feelings would do anything to keep you from finding out about his real intentions. If your guy is very protective about his phone and doesn’t let you hold it even if you want to make an important call that means he has something to hide. Along with that if he’s always talking to someone on call and when you ask him he comes up with different excuses every time then you need to be careful. I’m sure he would do his best to keep his phone with him at all times but you have to find a reason to get your hands on it somehow. Only then you would be sure and have something to make him confess to what he’s been doing. Try to stay away from such guys whenever you come across them so they don’t get a chance to lure you in a relationship with them.

4. He doesn’t get jealous or even seem to care if you go out with a guy friend

I know it’s important to trust your partner if you want a healthy relationship. Listen up its not that we don’t trust you when you go out for shopping or dinner with your guy best friend . If a guy is jealous of you going out with a guy friend it’s not because he’s over protective but that he loves you alot. He just doesn’t trust that guy you’re going with. To be honest he can’t even stand the thought of the love of his life out with someone else. So if your guy doesn’t care at all about you going out with your guy friends it’s because he doesn’t care and is not serious about you.

5. If you catch him staring at other girls very often even when you’re around

A guy who is serious about you and having a future with you will be lost in your love and to him no one else would mean more than you . Someone who checks out other women when you are with him clearly shows that he has no respect for you. He will leave you for another woman the first chance they get . I would say you recognise his intentions and get done with the likes of him ASAP before he gets a chance to hurt you .

If you liked this post then do check out another amazing post regarding the differences between a man and woman in love http://www.thedailylearners.com/difference-between-a-man-and-a-woman-in-love/

Top 10 things that people do which are just not worth it

Hello everyone , I know that I haven’t been able to post anything for a whole week due to some personal reasons but good news is that I’m back with a very interesting article for you guys and I hope that you like it.

We are all human beings and none of us is perfect, what I’m trying to say here is that at the end of the day we all make honest mistakes but there’s a hell lot of difference between making a genuine mistake and doing something stupid or highly in-appropriate on purpose. What makes me sad is the fact that most of the people who chose to do such things are aware of the fact that it’s just not going to be worth it but they still choose to do it anyways. Today I bring you my list of the top 10 things that people do which are just not worth it and just so you know this list is strictly only based on my opinion so let’s start off with it shall we?

1. Arguing with a fool

The first thing that’s just not worth it on my list is arguing with a stupid person. Trust me guys this one I am speaking from my own experience and no matter what you say to them or how right you are they won’t even bother understanding your point it’s exactly like pissing into a fan.

2. Having regrets

A majority of people struggle with having regrets from the past and it’s also one of the biggest causes of stress. Life is too short for this bullshit and we all only live once so learn to accept your mistake, apologise and move forward.

3. Getting a divorce

I’ve personally witnessed many lives that are destroyed because of divorce. I’m not saying that you should stay in a toxic relationship all I’m trying to say here is that try to choose wisely at first so you don’t have to deal with it later on because then in most cases is too late and lives are destroyed specially the children that you have by then are the ones who are mostly affected by it.

4. Impressing others

Did you know that most of the people buy fancy things they can’t even afford just to impress the people who don’t even care. Don’t waste all that hard earned money over useless things and it’s much better to build wealth than just a temporary image.

5. Fighting with your loved ones

I’m not saying that it’s wrong to disagree with someone infact do it if you think you should and even argue with them when you think they are wrong or bring unreasonable but atleast learn to fight fair with them. Attack the problem and not each other so your love and relationship with them grows even more stronger.

6. Choosing a career just for the money

This one is a major problem with humans and a mistake that many people make until later on when they realise that they are stuck into a professional they don’t even like. Always choose a career path that you are passionate about because that way you will enjoy and earn at the same time and remember than your peace of mind is worth more than any amount of money.

7. Not ending relationships that you know are toxic for you

Whether it’s a friend or a life partner if the person is toxic for you and your life you should not even think twice before kicking them out of your life. There is nothing more important than your own peace of mind which toxic people will try to destroy every chance they get. You should know that such people won’t change just because you ask them to and you need to let go of them before it’s too late. Also do check out my post regarding the Top 5 reasons we don’t end a friendship that’s toxic for us

8. One sided love

One sided love is something that’s way too common nowadays than we think it is infact what I think is that there are more people who are in love with someone one sidedly than those who are getting love in return. I really don’t understand people pining over someone who isn’t interested in them. Don’t waste your time and trust me it’s not love you can’t be in love with someone you don’t know and you can’t know them unless you have been in a relationship with them. Also if they are not interested in you that clearly means they won’t ever fall in love with you so better move on than trying to force someone in being in love with you.

9. Complaining

This one I can speak from my personal experience since a couple years back I used to complain alot too but as I grew up I realised that it’s not worth it at all. If you think about it for a second no matter what it is you complaining about it won’t change anything infact it would make things worse since you would just be making yourself insufferable plus no body really cares so better have your tolerance level high .

10. Spending a fortune on marriages

I don’t get the mentality behind spending almost half of what you will ever earn in other words more than you can afford on a marriage and why just to show off? Trust me the people who love you won’t care whether you invite them to a five star reception or a normal one they would be there for you anyways and the ones who won’t come just because of that well those people should not matter to you anyways since they are not loyal to you just a bunch of materialistic ass holes. Another big reason you should not be spending a fortune on marriage is because I know two such people who did exactly the same and ended up getting divorced the next year you don’t want to end up like them crying over the money wasted on a wedding that didn’t even last .

So my list of the top 10 things that people do which are just not worth it comes to an end and I hope you guys enjoyed reading it if you did then do leave a big thumbs up and also share what you think is missing in my list in the comment section.

Pictures that speak louder than a thousand words

Hello everyone, Most of the pictures we come across daily have a cool caption to go along with or atleast a title to describe them but the pictures that I’m going to share with you guys today don’t need any of that. Every picture in this list speaks for itself and what’s even more interesting about them is the fact that they show us the reality of the world we live in today. It took me days to collect all of these from different parts of the internet just so I could share it with you guys so I really do hope that you like them.

P.S I don’t know about you guys but I got really emotional and sad when I looked at some of these pictures for the first time.

1. Perfect Disguise

Starting off with the first picture on my list which I’ve given the title perfect disguise. Both the title and the picture above gives out a huge hint to the message that’s hidden in this picture. It’s a disturbing reality of the world we live in today as you can see theres a girl who is trying to look happy and perfect in her Instagram feed but the real person that’s standing outside the picture is probably depressed and tired of trying to compete with everyone else like her and what’s even more sad is that it truly is how people are nowadays everyone is trying to compete with someone they think is somehow better than them and the real versions of these people are hidden deep inside them while the fake picture perfect ones are on display for the world to see.

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2. In a world full of men be a gentleman

This picture is pretty amazing since it is a perfect example of how all of us are equal and being the president of one of the most powerful countries in the world can not change a person’s personality and it is always how someone is brought up that makes the difference. Two presidents of the same country just different times and you can clearly see which one of them is the gentleman.

3. We only miss someone when they are gone

This picture gave me goosebumps just because how this is what really is happening in our world in the present era. I don’t know what’s wrong with us human beings we don’t value the people that really matter to us when they are right infront of us craving for our attention and as soon as we realise that they are no longer with us or we have lost them all of a sudden we start mourning their loss but then it’s too late and all we are left with are regrets so better treat your loved ones right and tell them how much they mean to you while you still can.

4. Your manners represent your brought up

I really don’t think it’s necessary for me to explain what’s wrong with this picture because it’s pretty obvious. Just to be clear I didn’t choose to post this picture because men are sitting while a woman is standing in public transportation but because three healthy grown ass men are sitting while a pregnant lady is standing I mean how could anyone be that heartless.

5. True love is rare but it does exist

This one literally brought tears to my eyes and also restored my faith in true love. I feel very sad for the poor wife and specially that baby who lost his father before even getting a chance to know him. I salut the patience and strength of this woman I can’t even imagine living a life without someone I loved and recently got married to. God bless her and the husband’s soul.

Difference between guys and girls in love

In modern day we all believe and fight for gender equality but that doesn’t mean that men and women are the same. I personally believe in both the genders having equal rights but still there will always be alot of differences between men and women. I’m not just talking about the very obvious biological differences . What I mean is that they are different from each other in almost every other way. Today I’m just going to put light on all the ways they differ from one another when in love for example how they behave , show their feelings etc

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Let’s start with guys first

1. He’s generous with his food

Everyone knows that guys love food and if you go out for lunch or dinner with a guy you better order something for yourself separately because guys hate sharing their food with others . What I’m trying to say is that if a guy gives you the last bite of his chocolate mousse cake or offers to switch something he ordered for himself with you just because you like what he got more that most certainly means that he loves and adores you which is why he is willing to give up his food for you.

2. He would stare at you alot

This is a common sign of attraction. If you find out that a guy is staring at you alot its most probably because he is in love with you and adores you alot. If he stares or looks in your eyes when you are having a conversation that means he is trying to engage in something called mutual gazing with you . You would also find them staring at you along with a smile on their face even when you are just doing something as random as tying your laces before a run.

3. He talks about getting married to you and introduces you to his family

Introducing someone with their family is definitely a huge deal when it comes to guys . If a guy really loves you he would make you meet his family without you even asking for it and would make you feel special infront of his loved ones. He would also talk about having a future with you and making you his wife more oftenly .

4. He would pamper himself with you

Would you normally see a guy waiting to wash the charchoal mask on his face ? The answer is no. In other words guys don’t like to pamper themselves but if a guy is in love with you and you ask him to be a part of your beauty routine he would gladly say yes even if that’s the last thing he wants to do . Guys in love would do anything to make their woman happy.

5. He would take a stand for you

Girls love it when their guy takes a stand for them and he would normally do something like that for you when he really loves you and feels the need to protect you. He won’t even bother asking you if you’re the one that’s wrong all he knows at that time is to protect you and take your side and a guy who loves you would be willing to stand against the whole world for you.

Moving on to girls

1. She would be willing to change herself for you

We all know that the most important thing to every girl out there is her style and she won’t change that for anyone but that is not true for a girl who is in love. A girl who loves you for real would be willing to change her hair cut, her dressing style, even her social circle and interests for you. Your opinion would matter the most to her even more then her own.

2. She won’t give importance to any other guy over you

This is my favorite quality that women have when they are in love. As soon as she falls in love with you all other men will suddenly become non existent for her. She would not even look at them when she is with you because as long as a woman is happy with the guy she loves she would only think about having a future with him and noone else.

3. She would allow you in her personal space

Anyone who knows even a little about psychology must be aware of the concept of personal space. It mostly means that she will let you use her personal things and this is the line beyond which a girl wouldn’t allow anyone to cross. If she lets you use her cell phone or even her social page it’s pretty obvious that she has feelings of love for you.

4. She would laugh at your jokes

If a girl is in love with you she would never do or say anything that even slightly upsets you. She would laugh at your lame jokes even when deep inside she knows it was horrible so you don’t have to deal with the embarrassment. Never leave a girl who laughs at your silly jokes even when everyone else is not even smiling . She won’t care if others think both of you are weird in fact she would be glad you don’t have to face it all alone.

When youre in love with your best friend

Starting from the time when we are all just a bunch of small school going children till when we are full grown up adults we meet all kinds of different people. We even make a lot of friends along the way but with the pattern of time we learn that not everyone that claims to be our friend really is our friend. As we grow up many friends come and go but there’s this one true friend that has always been there for us right from the very beginning and either one of you could take a bullet or stand against the whole world for each other. That person is someone who has earned the right to be called our best friend, now some of us have a best friend of the same gender as us but most of the times they are of the opposite gender and usually they are the ones that prove to be better, more understanding and amazing friends. Imagine one day you find out that you have feelings for them and soon after that you realise you’re in love with your best friend. You keep your mouth shut since you don’t want to ruin your friendship.

Now this person who we call our best friend is the only person who has always been loyal to us and who we could depend on for anything. After all the years everything between you guys has been going pretty smoothly but then out of the blue there comes a day when they come up running to you and you could almost tell what they are going to say by the amount of excitement on their face. You’ve been feeling weird lately and even though you know they probably have some good news to share with you but you also have this unknown fear of something that you have not figured out yet. Your friend hugs you in excitement and like you expected they have some good news for you which for some odd reason you don’t have a good vibe about. Still you try your best to stay calm and listen to what they have to say and suddenly they tell you that they have found someone nice and have a date with them this weekend. You think that’s not a big deal and someday it was meant to happen and you tell them you’re happy for them even though it’s the opposite of that going on inside you. You take some time alone to think whatever that’s going on with you and what’s wrong all of a sudden. You think it must be something temporary like a phase of jealousy so you decide to give it some time but then you realise that you still feel exactly the same even after several days have passed . In that money you start thinking if you’re in love with your best friend and after alot of thinking you start accepting the fact that you really are in love with them and trust me guys if you are going through this it’s not something unusual infact it’s very common and happens alot .

What to do after confirming what you feel for them is real?

Now that you have made sure what you feel for them is real the first thing I suggest you should do is decide whether you should tell them everything that’s going on inside you or not? I personally think that if they are your best friend they would understand your feelings no matter how they feel ATM. Instead of being harsh on you they would explain their feelings to you very politely because we are all human beings and it’s not unusual or a very big deal if you fall for your best friend I mean who else would anyone want to be in love with other than someone who has always been there for you and also understands you better than anyone else

Let’s suppose if you tell them everything and be straight forward and honest with them what’s the best and the worst that could happen ? Well let me explain that to you starting with the first one which is also the best case scenario in this case

1) Best case scenario they also feel the same for you and you guys start dating and live happily ever after.

2) Second case scenario your best friend feels nothing like you do , gets confused in the heat of the moment which probably leads to you guys parting ways and a beautiful friendship coming to it’s end.

3) Third and last case scenario is they don’t feel the same way for you as you do for them . They politely listen to what you have to say but when you’re done they try to explain you that they don’t feel the same way but they also don’t want your friendship to end but after all that being back to normal gets kind of awkward.

After you’re done sharing your feelings with them next you should wait for their response or say on the matter. If they feel they way you do then I wish you a happy life together but what if they don’t feel the same way about you it’s simple you back off. What if they don’t feel the same way but still want to be friends well if that happens to me I would simply reject that offer because if I don’t it will be very harmful for my emotional well-being . I know you might think I’m being selfish but sometimes we all need to be like that for the sake of our own well crying. Also it would be very awkward for both of us or atleast for me and that way it would also be almost impossible for me to get them off my mind . If you keep on being friends and seeing each other regularly after knowing that they are not at all interested you would just be making things more difficult and complicated specially for your self. Trust me being friends and seeing someone you love make out with someone else is the worse feeling ever. So it’s better to go your own seperate ways and I’m sure they would understand where you’re coming from and would give you the space you need and deserve in order to get over that phase. I know it’s never easy but trust me it will pass . You just need to keep distance with them no matter what and ignore all the places where there is even the slightest chance of you crossing ways with them. Well this was everything I had to say on this matter and I hope it helps those of you going through this phase and for those of you who are not well it’s always good to be prepared for situations like these before hand because it’s not unusual that someday you find yourself in exactly the same situation. I wish you guys all the best for your future. Make the most out of it as long as you are here after all we all only live once.

Written by : Ahmed Shah

Top 5 reasons why most relationships fail nowadays ?

Hello everyone, Do you know that more than 70 percent of new relationships fail in the very first year? Today we are going to share with you the top 5 reasons why most relationships fail. So before starting off with my just I want you to know why I chose to write about this certain topic. The first time I realized how important and serious this is was last month as I was waiting to board a flight back to Pakistan at the Heathrow airport after spending an amazing summer with my cousins who live in London.

Not just this vacation but in fact all the times I had traveled abroad and explored different parts of the world it taught me many different things each time . What I loved the most was differentiating all kinds of people, nationalities, religions and traditions and then comparing them with each other and even with myself to see what differences and similarities we all had with one another.

So coming to the part when I was waiting to board my flight back to Pakistan. While there was still time left I kept thinking to myself how every single one of us is different from each other and have our own different stories and experiences to share. While I was lost in my thoughts something that I had never given a second thought popped up in my head and left me in surprise. I’ve almost traveled more than half the world and have met thousands of people with different personalities, identities and what not but I had never thought about this one thing that all of them and everyone I knew had in common and I’m sure most of you guys and everyone you know also has gone through it at some point in life. Yes I’m talking about getting our hearts broken that is something almost everyone over the age of hitting puberty has witnessed. In almost all the stories I’ve heard from people there’s a bad and a good partner in them even worse in some cases both the partners are confident that they were not the reason of the break up. I think either they are pretending to cover up their fuck ups or maybe they just really don’t know what they did was unacceptable and caused them to part ways. Do you know that 70 percent of all relationships end in the first year of dating and that’s the saddest thing I’ve found out lately. This is the reason I wanted to write about this topic so I could raise awareness of this issue even if that means in just a few people I would still be glad to do so . Now that you know why I chose to write about this let’s start with mentioning the top five most common reasons that cause most relationships to fail.

1- Understanding

The first reason on my list is also a very common reason behind a majority of relationships not being able to work out. Both men and women have this problem of understanding the needs of one another . Firstly they need to accept that no matter what they do there are always going to be gender differences and to have a healthy relationship they will have to understand the needs of their partner. Some of the most common things that both the genders fail to understand are

 

  • Men need sex to feel loved and women need to feel loved to have sex
  • Men need to play well to feel good in sports and women need to feel good to play well
  • Men need to feel respected and appreciated with words or gestures. Women need your actions to be backed up with word 

2– Love is blind

Some scientists at the University College London have shown us that love indeed is blind. They found out that feelings of love lead to a suppression of activity in the areas of the brain controlling critical thought . In other words once we feel close to a person, our brain decides that it’s not necessary to assess their character or personality too deeply and that is why most couples are all lovey dovey at the start of the relationship. The problem here is that this phase doesn’t last forever and after a couple of months or a year max the new relationship euphoria begins to wear off and the reality starts setting in and both the partners start seeing each other as they really are . Now if both of them had been honest with each other from the start or have not made a false first impression of themselves then they don’t have to worry about anything but that’s not the case most of the time and this becomes a major reason why many relationships fail.

3- Trust

  • Another very common reason why most relationships fail is the lack or loss of trust. It is one of the most harmful contagions to a couple’s long-term success and without trust, a relationship misses two of the key factors to a strong bond , safety and security. Trust issues could arise due to a number of reasons that may include jealousy, possessiveness, unreasonable rigidity, emotional infidelity, physical/sexual infidelity, relational game playing or lack of reliability. Most of the time the reason behind trust issues is not even true and something we have assumed ourself. I believe that’s someone who is having trust issues should honestly consider whether the lack of trust is based on tangible substance or unjustified fears.
  • 4- Lack of communication

  • Lack of communication in couples is considered to be one of the top reasons behind breakups and even divorce. The situation gets worse when one or both partners show contempt in the relationship Contempt is the opposite of respect and is often expressed via negative judgment, criticism, or sarcasm regarding the worth of an individual. The best solution to that is to talk to your partner and clear any mis understanding there is between you guys because not communicating with each other could make the situation worse and even lead to an end of the relationship.

  • 5- Immaturity and lack of commitment

The last but definitely not the least reason why most relationships fail is because either one or even both the partners are still immature. The best example of this are teenage relationships. Almost all teenage relationships fail because most of the high school going kids are in it for the fun specially the boys. They are the kind of people who are in it just for the relationship and not the person they are with in that relationship. These kind of relationship are bad for the person who actually is in love and really does care about their partner but little do they know that there is no future for them with that immature and selfish person.

 

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