5 signs that your guy is just playing around with you

Hello everyone , Today I’m writing this one for all the girls out there. I’m a guy which is why I know how most guys are. I’m not saying there are no good guys left in this world because that is a lie. There also no denying the fact that nowadays girls are much more loyal and sincere than guys. Well don’t worry because I know exactly how play boys act around the girl they are playing around with. I’m sharing this with you because I believe that every woman should be treated with the respect she deserves. So today I bring you the top five signs that your guy is not serious about you and if I help and save even one girl from getting hurt badly in the future I will believe that I accomplished my goal.

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Top 5 signs that your guy is not serious about you
1. If he hates the idea of taking it slow

The first and a very obvious sign that he’s a play boy is that he wouldn’t like the idea of taking things slow and by things I mean the relationship . A guy who genuinely loves you would not care about such petty things and would worry about the bigger picture. In other words even if you tell him you don’t want to kiss him until marriage trust me he would be happy to respect whatever your opinion is. Someone who gets mad at you for not letting him kiss you or sleep with you is a guaranteed asshole. Now you know what to do when you see this red flag or sign in the future.

2. If he doesn’t want to introduce you to his family and friends

This is another serious red flag and sign you want to look for in your guy in order to get an idea of him. Guys who are not planning to have a future with you would obviously not want you to meet his parents and even his close friends . You might be wondering why is that well it’s because most of their parents are not aware of the evil a**holes they are. They won’t want to ruin their fake image introducing someone they don’t even plan to marry I hope you got my point.

3. If he is always on the phone even when he’s supposed to give time to you

A guy who likes to play with your feelings would do anything to keep you from finding out about his real intentions. If your guy is very protective about his phone and doesn’t let you hold it even if you want to make an important call that means he has something to hide. Along with that if he’s always talking to someone on call and when you ask him he comes up with different excuses every time then you need to be careful. I’m sure he would do his best to keep his phone with him at all times but you have to find a reason to get your hands on it somehow. Only then you would be sure and have something to make him confess to what he’s been doing. Try to stay away from such guys whenever you come across them so they don’t get a chance to lure you in a relationship with them.

4. He doesn’t get jealous or even seem to care if you go out with a guy friend

I know it’s important to trust your partner if you want a healthy relationship. Listen up its not that we don’t trust you when you go out for shopping or dinner with your guy best friend . If a guy is jealous of you going out with a guy friend it’s not because he’s over protective but that he loves you alot. He just doesn’t trust that guy you’re going with. To be honest he can’t even stand the thought of the love of his life out with someone else. So if your guy doesn’t care at all about you going out with your guy friends it’s because he doesn’t care and is not serious about you.

5. If you catch him staring at other girls very often even when you’re around

A guy who is serious about you and having a future with you will be lost in your love and to him no one else would mean more than you . Someone who checks out other women when you are with him clearly shows that he has no respect for you. He will leave you for another woman the first chance they get . I would say you recognise his intentions and get done with the likes of him ASAP before he gets a chance to hurt you .

If you liked this post then do check out another amazing post regarding the differences between a man and woman in love http://www.thedailylearners.com/difference-between-a-man-and-a-woman-in-love/

When youre in love with your best friend

Starting from the time when we are all just a bunch of small school going children till when we are full grown up adults we meet all kinds of different people. We even make a lot of friends along the way but with the pattern of time we learn that not everyone that claims to be our friend really is our friend. As we grow up many friends come and go but there’s this one true friend that has always been there for us right from the very beginning and either one of you could take a bullet or stand against the whole world for each other. That person is someone who has earned the right to be called our best friend, now some of us have a best friend of the same gender as us but most of the times they are of the opposite gender and usually they are the ones that prove to be better, more understanding and amazing friends. Imagine one day you find out that you have feelings for them and soon after that you realise you’re in love with your best friend. You keep your mouth shut since you don’t want to ruin your friendship.

Now this person who we call our best friend is the only person who has always been loyal to us and who we could depend on for anything. After all the years everything between you guys has been going pretty smoothly but then out of the blue there comes a day when they come up running to you and you could almost tell what they are going to say by the amount of excitement on their face. You’ve been feeling weird lately and even though you know they probably have some good news to share with you but you also have this unknown fear of something that you have not figured out yet. Your friend hugs you in excitement and like you expected they have some good news for you which for some odd reason you don’t have a good vibe about. Still you try your best to stay calm and listen to what they have to say and suddenly they tell you that they have found someone nice and have a date with them this weekend. You think that’s not a big deal and someday it was meant to happen and you tell them you’re happy for them even though it’s the opposite of that going on inside you. You take some time alone to think whatever that’s going on with you and what’s wrong all of a sudden. You think it must be something temporary like a phase of jealousy so you decide to give it some time but then you realise that you still feel exactly the same even after several days have passed . In that money you start thinking if you’re in love with your best friend and after alot of thinking you start accepting the fact that you really are in love with them and trust me guys if you are going through this it’s not something unusual infact it’s very common and happens alot .

What to do after confirming what you feel for them is real?

Now that you have made sure what you feel for them is real the first thing I suggest you should do is decide whether you should tell them everything that’s going on inside you or not? I personally think that if they are your best friend they would understand your feelings no matter how they feel ATM. Instead of being harsh on you they would explain their feelings to you very politely because we are all human beings and it’s not unusual or a very big deal if you fall for your best friend I mean who else would anyone want to be in love with other than someone who has always been there for you and also understands you better than anyone else

Let’s suppose if you tell them everything and be straight forward and honest with them what’s the best and the worst that could happen ? Well let me explain that to you starting with the first one which is also the best case scenario in this case

1) Best case scenario they also feel the same for you and you guys start dating and live happily ever after.

2) Second case scenario your best friend feels nothing like you do , gets confused in the heat of the moment which probably leads to you guys parting ways and a beautiful friendship coming to it’s end.

3) Third and last case scenario is they don’t feel the same way for you as you do for them . They politely listen to what you have to say but when you’re done they try to explain you that they don’t feel the same way but they also don’t want your friendship to end but after all that being back to normal gets kind of awkward.

After you’re done sharing your feelings with them next you should wait for their response or say on the matter. If they feel they way you do then I wish you a happy life together but what if they don’t feel the same way about you it’s simple you back off. What if they don’t feel the same way but still want to be friends well if that happens to me I would simply reject that offer because if I don’t it will be very harmful for my emotional well-being . I know you might think I’m being selfish but sometimes we all need to be like that for the sake of our own well crying. Also it would be very awkward for both of us or atleast for me and that way it would also be almost impossible for me to get them off my mind . If you keep on being friends and seeing each other regularly after knowing that they are not at all interested you would just be making things more difficult and complicated specially for your self. Trust me being friends and seeing someone you love make out with someone else is the worse feeling ever. So it’s better to go your own seperate ways and I’m sure they would understand where you’re coming from and would give you the space you need and deserve in order to get over that phase. I know it’s never easy but trust me it will pass . You just need to keep distance with them no matter what and ignore all the places where there is even the slightest chance of you crossing ways with them. Well this was everything I had to say on this matter and I hope it helps those of you going through this phase and for those of you who are not well it’s always good to be prepared for situations like these before hand because it’s not unusual that someday you find yourself in exactly the same situation. I wish you guys all the best for your future. Make the most out of it as long as you are here after all we all only live once.

Written by : Ahmed Shah

5 reasons why we don’t end a friendship that’s toxic for us

The internet is full of articles and stories related to friendships and how friends are a blessing and that we all have that one best friend we can do anything for and how you you have always been there for each other but the one thing that annoys me is the fact that everyone just wants to share only the good parts and not the negative aspects of it which is mostly the reality of friendships nowadays but no we just want to portray everything as if it was all just rainbows and butterflies. Let’s get back to our topic for today which is why do we keep going back to a friend who hurts our feelings everytime and deep inside we know they are toxic for us and I’m sure most of us have been through or is going through this but we don’t want to accept it and here im going to share with you five reasons why we don’t put an end to such friendships that are toxic for us

1.You probably keep thinking that things are going to be different next time

The chances are that sometimes you might have a good time with that toxic friend and in that moment you enjoy his or her company so when they have a major blow up or they put you down suddenly you shake it off thinking that maybe next time will be different and there’s a reason behind the way they behaved like that but let me tell you the problem with toxic friends , you are unable to communicate reasonably with them. Whereas you’d probably tell a friend, “Hey, that hurt my feelings” and they would apologize and you’d both move on but you can’t do that in a toxic friendship because your friend just won’t hear it maybe because they are a bully or because they can’t listen to criticism or just because they can’t simply have a conversation that’s not about them. At times you might assume that if you don’t discuss the situation with your toxic friend they would feel sorry for acting badly and would want to do better but this thinking of yours is flawed because it’s based on what you would do and it won’t change the behavior of others .

2. Maybe that toxic friend of yours wasn’t always like this

Sometimes what stops you from putting an end to such a friendship is because maybe that friend of yours wasn’t always this way and somewhere in your mind you think that something changed them into a toxic person or maybe you did something wrong and that you deserve such a behavior well that is not at all true and what I think is that at the beginning of your friendship they were nice to you because they probably had a motive behind it and that is why they became friends with you at the first place im sure if you think about it you will notice what was it that they wanted from you at the first place and I’m sure that is what changed their behavior once you find out the real reason maybe then you can stop blaming yourself and end that toxic friendship.

3. You keep thinking you can change them

Another reason could be that maybe you see yourself as some kind of a friendship warrior and that you are here to make all friendships great but you’re forgetting something very important here which is that no matter what you do and how much you try to change someone it won’t work until and unless they themself also want the same and allowing their negative behavior will only make them think that maybe it’s okay to treat you in such a way. What you need to do here is to be honest with them and tell them kindly that you won’t tolerate bad treatment and if they continue behaving poorly try giving them examples of when they behave that way with you and if they still don’t stop then you’re done . Just to let you know toxic people are notoriously bad at listening and it’s hard to have a genuine conversation about their behavior because they just don’t want to hear it and until they’re ready to listen you can’t help as simple as that.

4. You don’t have alot of friends and are afraid to let go

Another reason could be that sometimes you have a hard time making friends so you hang on to the toxic ones because you think it’s better than being alone . I accept that it’s hard to be lonely but filling up your life with toxic people doesn’t make you feel less lonely because loneliness can only be remedied by deep, meaningful connections with real friends. When you have a friend that understands you I promise you’ll feel less lonely and will value good friendships much more. If you’re lonely just focus on meeting more people and make an effort to form a new friendship with the people you have fun with, who treat you well and who encourage you rather than tear you down.

5. Something from your past makes you think that negative and toxic behaviors are acceptable

The most common reason why most people don’t end a toxic friendship that because of their own personal background that edges them toward acceptance of bad behavior. Maybe you also think this is what friendship is all about but trust me there is a big difference between someone who is just having a bad day and someone who consistently does negative things. The difference is that a genuine friend will feel bad after they hurt you and offer an apology. They’ll mess up from time to time but their intention is not to hurt. If you find that you’re consistently allowing toxic behavior into your friendships or even that all your friends seem to be of this negative nature, seek out a professional who can talk to you about dealing with the perceptions you carry from your past so you can start from the beginning and make healthy relationships with genuine friends this time and trust me there’s nothing wrong in taking the help that you need and always remember that youre not alone in this. You only live once and everyone deserves to have genuine people in their life who really do care for them. I hope this helps good luck for the future.

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