Top 10 things that people do which are just not worth it

Hello everyone , I know that I haven’t been able to post anything for a whole week due to some personal reasons but good news is that I’m back with a very interesting article for you guys and I hope that you like it.

We are all human beings and none of us is perfect, what I’m trying to say here is that at the end of the day we all make honest mistakes but there’s a hell lot of difference between making a genuine mistake and doing something stupid or highly in-appropriate on purpose. What makes me sad is the fact that most of the people who chose to do such things are aware of the fact that it’s just not going to be worth it but they still choose to do it anyways. Today I bring you my list of the top 10 things that people do which are just not worth it and just so you know this list is strictly only based on my opinion so let’s start off with it shall we?

1. Arguing with a fool

The first thing that’s just not worth it on my list is arguing with a stupid person. Trust me guys this one I am speaking from my own experience and no matter what you say to them or how right you are they won’t even bother understanding your point it’s exactly like pissing into a fan.

2. Having regrets

A majority of people struggle with having regrets from the past and it’s also one of the biggest causes of stress. Life is too short for this bullshit and we all only live once so learn to accept your mistake, apologise and move forward.

3. Getting a divorce

I’ve personally witnessed many lives that are destroyed because of divorce. I’m not saying that you should stay in a toxic relationship all I’m trying to say here is that try to choose wisely at first so you don’t have to deal with it later on because then in most cases is too late and lives are destroyed specially the children that you have by then are the ones who are mostly affected by it.

4. Impressing others

Did you know that most of the people buy fancy things they can’t even afford just to impress the people who don’t even care. Don’t waste all that hard earned money over useless things and it’s much better to build wealth than just a temporary image.

5. Fighting with your loved ones

I’m not saying that it’s wrong to disagree with someone infact do it if you think you should and even argue with them when you think they are wrong or bring unreasonable but atleast learn to fight fair with them. Attack the problem and not each other so your love and relationship with them grows even more stronger.

6. Choosing a career just for the money

This one is a major problem with humans and a mistake that many people make until later on when they realise that they are stuck into a professional they don’t even like. Always choose a career path that you are passionate about because that way you will enjoy and earn at the same time and remember than your peace of mind is worth more than any amount of money.

7. Not ending relationships that you know are toxic for you

Whether it’s a friend or a life partner if the person is toxic for you and your life you should not even think twice before kicking them out of your life. There is nothing more important than your own peace of mind which toxic people will try to destroy every chance they get. You should know that such people won’t change just because you ask them to and you need to let go of them before it’s too late. Also do check out my post regarding the Top 5 reasons we don’t end a friendship that’s toxic for us

8. One sided love

One sided love is something that’s way too common nowadays than we think it is infact what I think is that there are more people who are in love with someone one sidedly than those who are getting love in return. I really don’t understand people pining over someone who isn’t interested in them. Don’t waste your time and trust me it’s not love you can’t be in love with someone you don’t know and you can’t know them unless you have been in a relationship with them. Also if they are not interested in you that clearly means they won’t ever fall in love with you so better move on than trying to force someone in being in love with you.

9. Complaining

This one I can speak from my personal experience since a couple years back I used to complain alot too but as I grew up I realised that it’s not worth it at all. If you think about it for a second no matter what it is you complaining about it won’t change anything infact it would make things worse since you would just be making yourself insufferable plus no body really cares so better have your tolerance level high .

10. Spending a fortune on marriages

I don’t get the mentality behind spending almost half of what you will ever earn in other words more than you can afford on a marriage and why just to show off? Trust me the people who love you won’t care whether you invite them to a five star reception or a normal one they would be there for you anyways and the ones who won’t come just because of that well those people should not matter to you anyways since they are not loyal to you just a bunch of materialistic ass holes. Another big reason you should not be spending a fortune on marriage is because I know two such people who did exactly the same and ended up getting divorced the next year you don’t want to end up like them crying over the money wasted on a wedding that didn’t even last .

So my list of the top 10 things that people do which are just not worth it comes to an end and I hope you guys enjoyed reading it if you did then do leave a big thumbs up and also share what you think is missing in my list in the comment section.

When youre in love with your best friend

Starting from the time when we are all just a bunch of small school going children till when we are full grown up adults we meet all kinds of different people. We even make a lot of friends along the way but with the pattern of time we learn that not everyone that claims to be our friend really is our friend. As we grow up many friends come and go but there’s this one true friend that has always been there for us right from the very beginning and either one of you could take a bullet or stand against the whole world for each other. That person is someone who has earned the right to be called our best friend, now some of us have a best friend of the same gender as us but most of the times they are of the opposite gender and usually they are the ones that prove to be better, more understanding and amazing friends. Imagine one day you find out that you have feelings for them and soon after that you realise you’re in love with your best friend. You keep your mouth shut since you don’t want to ruin your friendship.

Now this person who we call our best friend is the only person who has always been loyal to us and who we could depend on for anything. After all the years everything between you guys has been going pretty smoothly but then out of the blue there comes a day when they come up running to you and you could almost tell what they are going to say by the amount of excitement on their face. You’ve been feeling weird lately and even though you know they probably have some good news to share with you but you also have this unknown fear of something that you have not figured out yet. Your friend hugs you in excitement and like you expected they have some good news for you which for some odd reason you don’t have a good vibe about. Still you try your best to stay calm and listen to what they have to say and suddenly they tell you that they have found someone nice and have a date with them this weekend. You think that’s not a big deal and someday it was meant to happen and you tell them you’re happy for them even though it’s the opposite of that going on inside you. You take some time alone to think whatever that’s going on with you and what’s wrong all of a sudden. You think it must be something temporary like a phase of jealousy so you decide to give it some time but then you realise that you still feel exactly the same even after several days have passed . In that money you start thinking if you’re in love with your best friend and after alot of thinking you start accepting the fact that you really are in love with them and trust me guys if you are going through this it’s not something unusual infact it’s very common and happens alot .

What to do after confirming what you feel for them is real?

Now that you have made sure what you feel for them is real the first thing I suggest you should do is decide whether you should tell them everything that’s going on inside you or not? I personally think that if they are your best friend they would understand your feelings no matter how they feel ATM. Instead of being harsh on you they would explain their feelings to you very politely because we are all human beings and it’s not unusual or a very big deal if you fall for your best friend I mean who else would anyone want to be in love with other than someone who has always been there for you and also understands you better than anyone else

Let’s suppose if you tell them everything and be straight forward and honest with them what’s the best and the worst that could happen ? Well let me explain that to you starting with the first one which is also the best case scenario in this case

1) Best case scenario they also feel the same for you and you guys start dating and live happily ever after.

2) Second case scenario your best friend feels nothing like you do , gets confused in the heat of the moment which probably leads to you guys parting ways and a beautiful friendship coming to it’s end.

3) Third and last case scenario is they don’t feel the same way for you as you do for them . They politely listen to what you have to say but when you’re done they try to explain you that they don’t feel the same way but they also don’t want your friendship to end but after all that being back to normal gets kind of awkward.

After you’re done sharing your feelings with them next you should wait for their response or say on the matter. If they feel they way you do then I wish you a happy life together but what if they don’t feel the same way about you it’s simple you back off. What if they don’t feel the same way but still want to be friends well if that happens to me I would simply reject that offer because if I don’t it will be very harmful for my emotional well-being . I know you might think I’m being selfish but sometimes we all need to be like that for the sake of our own well crying. Also it would be very awkward for both of us or atleast for me and that way it would also be almost impossible for me to get them off my mind . If you keep on being friends and seeing each other regularly after knowing that they are not at all interested you would just be making things more difficult and complicated specially for your self. Trust me being friends and seeing someone you love make out with someone else is the worse feeling ever. So it’s better to go your own seperate ways and I’m sure they would understand where you’re coming from and would give you the space you need and deserve in order to get over that phase. I know it’s never easy but trust me it will pass . You just need to keep distance with them no matter what and ignore all the places where there is even the slightest chance of you crossing ways with them. Well this was everything I had to say on this matter and I hope it helps those of you going through this phase and for those of you who are not well it’s always good to be prepared for situations like these before hand because it’s not unusual that someday you find yourself in exactly the same situation. I wish you guys all the best for your future. Make the most out of it as long as you are here after all we all only live once.

Written by : Ahmed Shah

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